Reflecting on LA Pride from a gay dad’s perspective: “I’m depressed.”

Max Mutchnick [not pictured] offers his unique observations of a major Pride Festival. He recently attended LA Pride with his family [husband and twin girls]. His latest contribution to The Huffington Post allows us to feel his anxiety and share his disappointment about being an outsider at such a supposedly welcoming event.

Max writes: “…when we were planning our weekend, I thought it might be a cool idea to take the kids to Gay Pride after music class. I could just see us putting them in Baby Bjorns and walking amongst our people and really being a part of it. But as I sat in my car, watching from the periphery, I started to worry. Were these my people? I used to get comforting goose bumps at Gay Pride parades. I am a part of something. These sexual outlaws and gender pioneers are my brothers and sisters and we are part of a community. But for the first time, I felt like an outsider.

“Dykes on bikes, Tarzana Trannies, Jewish Leather Daddies and Kathy Griffin’s mom. Don’t get me wrong. I love these people. Let’s call them the “Usual Suspects.” They fought for my rights and taught me how to dance. But they should no longer be representing “the pride.” It’s a different time. For god’s sake, Larry Craig is a life-long homosexual. What I’m trying to say is that “unremarkable” mainstream people are gay, too. So I cringe when a local newsperson shoves a microphone in the face of some young 95-pound twink [pictured] (Straight Translation: a twink is a skinny homosexual with a lot of moxie). The twink looks into the camera and screams into the reporter’s microphone: “Get down here now. The drinks are big. But you know what’s bigger…” He laughs in a high-pitched cackle and his “girlfriends” join in. I wish they’d read more and drink less.

“I’m depressed. Why is this the voice speaking for me?”

5 thoughts on “Reflecting on LA Pride from a gay dad’s perspective: “I’m depressed.”

  • June 20, 2009 at 1:39 am

    “Half the state” didn’t consider the Mutchnick Family’s love a sin. Proposition 8 passed by a relatively small number of votes.

    But to the point of the story, it’s myopic to think that any individual is speaking on behalf of the Mark Mutchnick. He should know better than anyone how the media sensationalizes issues and sensationalizes the gay community. Gee, was the character “Jack” on the show because he was a soft spoken thoughtful character or because he was a wild example of gay people?

    Sadly, Mark and his family missed out as I saw a lot of children at L.A. Pride this year having fun with their families. I also saw people of our community representing all colors of the rainbow, so to speak. Perhaps Max Mutchnick, successful and now married with kids, is depressed because the community hasn’t “evolved” in the exact way he has. Just because he went down the married with children path doesn’t mean all of us want to go down that way with him…

  • June 19, 2009 at 10:28 pm

    I totally understand Jeff.

    For many attendees, I think that gayness is a big part of their life.

    Maybe they’d be more “settled down with kids” if half the state CA didn’t consider their love a SIN???

  • June 20, 2009 at 12:11 am

    why are you sitting in the car rather than approaching the reporter and representing the community yourself so the reporter has more than one interview to choose from.

  • June 24, 2009 at 12:45 am

    excellent point…

  • June 20, 2009 at 9:29 am

    I spent Boston Prid with the GLBT playgroup I run here and was all to happy to do it. I gelt the “Kick” out of the club when I had children but would not shoose anyting else, but is is “depressing” when you feel that there is no place.

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