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I'm American, but I've been living and working in Uganda for the past 8 years. I tried to adopt from Ukraine for 3.5 years and after spending about 25k, I found myself back exactly where I had started. Then last June (2007) four embroyos that were half me got transferred into a Ugandan woman without my permission. I never met this surrogate and she never signed any surrogacy documents. It was classic East Africa confusion. This surrogate then completely disappeared and I never knew if she became pregnant. So with a private detective, I looked for her for 5 months. The search for her was really stressful, so eventually I gave up looking, I just surrendered fatherhood to the universe. Then, on Februrary 19, 2008, I got a call when I was at work. It was the doctor who transferred the embroyos without my consent. He told me that "I needed to come and collect my son". Those were his words exactly. The surrogate had delivered and brought the baby to him. She delivered in a health center that has one mattress on the floor and bedpans are routinely emptied out the window. I think the staff at this health center must have been pretty shocked when a completely white baby came out of an African woman. I was completely unprepared, but I couldn't be happier. I named him Andrew Giovanni, and he is my dream come true. He's the winning lottery ticket. I think that pretty much tells my story. I'm interested in conversing other gay singles. How they handle questions from their kids, how they handle tough situations. My son is only 2 months old now, but I'm already worried about so many things for him.