a-red-thread

a-red-thread
Southern, NH

Gay Dad of two via *International Adoption (Guatemala 2004/2005) and almost a third (2007, "Casa Quivira.") Expecting third child via **International Surrogacy (India, April 2013.) Married (legally) to my best-friend for what feels like years. We are truly a "Modern Family," this being my second marriage (first marriage 12 years- ended in divorce (I always wanted to be famous, I got my wish as my former husband and we where the first to be granted same-sex divorce in NH, legally.) Becoming a Dad was not an easy task, however, after years of failed attempts... I adopted Liam ('04) from Guatemala in 89 days, followed by Naomie ('05) from Guatemala in 88 days. During our third, unplanned adoption (Guatemala attempted to keep siblings together,) I found myself (along with 40-something other families facing headlines as "Casa Quivira" adoptive parents.) After a five-year struggle, my third is in a good home- and that's all I can say. In 2012, after meeting our Oprah Winfrey certified Fertility Specialist in India, we became pregnant via anonymous egg donation, IVF, ICSI, with a Gestational Surrogate on our first try! Baby # 3 is due in April '13. We pray we can try for one more baby, fingers crossed. I am a Registered Nurse, board certified in Psychiatry, Case Management, OB-GYN and Emergency Nursing. However, I hate my career, so I am anxiously awaiting application decisions for a career change. I am so lucky to have such a supportive partner. Likes: Shazam, itunes, youtube, google, loop-holes, coupons, Assisted Reproductive Technology, the movies Premonition, Beautiful Thing and frightening/ scary movies like Friday the 13'th, Dawn of the Dead, Halloween and who doesn't love the original Bring It On? Although TV is bad for us, I can't get enough of re-runs of Roseanne, Modern Family and Disappeared (two, yes two episodes filmed/ based only 1 mile from my home- hence why I do not leave the house at night.) ***Parenting Method: 1) domestic traditional surrogacy with no success. 2) international adoption x two resulting in Irish twins! Naturally backfiring during my third attempt. 3) domestic adoption- what a let down ;(. 4) *international surrogacy- with the help of egg donation, IVF, ICSI and gestational surrogacy- we are due in April '13! 5) planning to either internationally adopt- if we can line up all the ducks in a row; or, a second international surrogacy *we have a number of "frozen embryos" that we would like to donate to a couple or single person, however because of the situation there are two options, you must be a lesbian single or couple, travel to India for IVF and then your done. For a gay couple or single, we would need to participate to assist you in gaining citizenship, because the surrogate would need to remain in India. Pay no attention to thoughts of us "changing our minds" once a baby is born. We have already donated and the couple have triplets (identical twins/one fraternal triplet!) And, all we ask is that you bank your umbilical cord blood for future use, and place us on your Holiday card sending list. We do not want the embryos we created to be destroyed or used for research, therefore, it would be our pleasure and we ask no compensation of any kind... If we can help another person/couples dream come true, that is sufficient for us! (please note that the embryos are 1/4 Indian, 1/4 Thai, 1.875/4 Eastern European and .125/4 Pacific Islander)