gay dads

I have always known that one day I would be a dad. Looking back, my fantasy always included another husband; yet, I often wondered how I would make my dream a reality. My fantasy was usually abruptly halted by the reality that a woman was needed to make this dream come true. Little did I know that my dream would become my life.

My partner and I will celebrate nine years together in July. We plan to commemorate our life together by getting married. Wow...I'm getting married. How many gays and lesbians can actually say that? I digress.

It has been excessively long, there is more, and more that transpires between each of my entries. I had not even had the chance to log on and see what is new with those of you who I have had the wonderful chance to be in contact with. So, from the obvious to the not so obvious, in snippet form as per usual.

I have a lot to catch up on in the blog world and things that are worth note but perhaps the most important is the one I am currently dealing with. Introducing the subject of death and dying with kids traumatized by loss. My mother, who has been ill for years and has been hospitalized and operated on more in the last decade than anyone I know. Each time you hold your breath and hope all works out and you never give up the hope that there is fight left. I really thought after a kidney transplant things would be different. Well things are different but still not good.

Ok if I had to pick the reindeer that most resembles my life it would be Dasher. I do not know where the time has gone between getting off the plane from South Dakota to the eve before 2008. How do I possible relay all of the things that have been so wonderful about this season and the things I am hopeful for in 2008? I guess a brief retrospective of the last month and my hopes for 2008.

Well this seems to becoming a monthly occurrance as I have time so this may just be in the form of random thought or occurrances as I wait for Bryce to wake up. Of course Benjamin is awake and chatting away as I write this. We are in Christmas preparation mode and the house is as decorated as it is going to get this year. The neighbors have all the decorations out. I thought about a lighted inflatable blow up doll, dressed as Santa or Ru Paul on the front lawn...but then I figured I could not compete with all of the folks. So I gave up.