straight children

If you are like most gays, you were a constant source of anxiety to your straight parents. They never wanted you to express your budding lesbianism by wearing flannel shirts, chopping your hair off, and playing sports with the boys. And they tried to suppress your nascent gay-boyness by signing you up for team sports and setting you up with the neighbor’s budding lesbian daughter—hoping for a miracle.

Your parents were trying to fit a gay peg into a straight hole. And that’s why so many heterosexuals think you’ll try to fit a straight peg into a gay hole—in other words, make your child gay—if you’re allowed to parent. But that’s not what gay parents usually do. After experiencing years of coersive