Do you have remarkably supportive parents who fastened on their “I love my gay son” or "My lesbian daughter rocks" lapel pins the minute you confirmed their worst fears? Or do you have parents who summarily shut the door in your face after hearing your news? Now that you have a grandchild, don’t be surprised if some of these parents want back into your life. Grandchildren change all the dynamics. The question is: do you let them in?