Who's Your Sperm Donor?

As they grow and mature, children want to know about their biological origins. That is why Rainbow Flag Health Services allows the sperm donor (not the legal parent of the child) to be known to the child. Utilizing this unique service, it's the only sperm bank to tell the mother who the donor is when the child is three months old. The mother is asked to contact the donor by the child's first birthday. This is similar in concept to open adoption, where the birth mother is known to the child although she is not the child's legal parent.

Rainbow Flag Health Services, located in Alameda, CA operates under California law [California Family Code Section 7613(b)] which legally separates Donor and Mother. The company ships to over 45 states for self insemination and to doctor's offices for storage or intrauterine inseminations. Clients from outside of California are still covered by this law under the full faith and credit clause of the United States Constitution.

Rainbow Flag is the only sperm bank in North America to actively recruit gay and bisexual sperm donors. Learn more here.

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Rainbow Flag is a Bad Choice

anonymous's picture

Please reconsider recommending Rainbow Flag Health Services. They are dangerous for Lesbian families because they encourage the donor to have a relationship with the child. No matter what legal documents both parties sign, this has repeatedly led to court-mandated custody or visitation "in the best interests of the child". It is perfectly easy to get known donors through pretty much every sperm bank. Most banks offer the option of knowable donors (when the child is of age). Also, Rainbow Flag goes against the health recommendations of respected doctors' organizations like the American Academy of Pediatricians by insisting that parents not circumcise their sons. I am suspicious about this organization because it does not test for very many diseases, doesn't pay donors, only takes gay men, sets families up for legal trouble and tries to force parenting decisions on recipients.

We are currently a lesbian

anonymous's picture

We are currently a lesbian couple using services through Rainbow Flag. Many of the concerns listed in your commentation, we have found to be false. In addition, as nurses who work closely with multiple Pediatricians belonging to American Academy of Pediatricians, and as professionals who are familiar with the current guidelines and recommendations of the AAP, we are unaware of either encouraging or discouraging of circumcision by this entity. However, it is acknowledged by the AAP that circumcision is not a medically necessary procedure. Therefore, Rainbow Flag is not "going against" the recommendations of the AAP; they are simply advocating and promoting their philosophy on the topic of circumcision. It is a right we have as individuals who create businesses in America to build our establishments and conduct our business based on the values and philosophies we feel strongly about. Certainly if you went to a facility seeking lactation assistance, they would not encourage bottlefeeding because they strongly believe in the importance and effects of breastfeeding. But how acceptable and popular is it to bottlefeed in our society? Obviously, it is quite acceptable despite the evidenced-based research that bottlefeeding does not compare to the nutritional and immunobiology properties of human milk. Like bottlefeeding, most people are not completely understanding of the potential problems that circumcision can create because it is such a common and accepted part of our culture. In response to your comment on testing of diseases, Rainbow Flag required not only donors but also the recipients to undergo quite extensive testing. We found that there was actually slightly more testing required as a recipiant than typical for an initial prenatal visit done at an OB/GYN's office. Although there is obviously no way we could prove this to either be true or false, we have also found that Rainbow Flag accepts donors regardless of their sexual orientation. It appears to us that your comment about the facility only accepting gay donors is false. Lastly, it is extremely important to research the laws in your own individual state of residence as well as the state from which an individual receives donor sperm, to avoid the adverse legal outcomes that may arise from being in a donor-recipient situation. Every single state has been affected by cases arising from the various instances that occur under donor-recipient relationships whether the donor is known or not; the state of California is no exception. That does not mean, however, that Rainbow Flag has neglected or avoided addressing this issue within their facility. We have actually found it to be quite the opposite and both legal counsel as well as binding contracts are addressed at the Rainbow Flag bank.

Rainbow Flag is a great choice

anonymous's picture

Dangerous for lesbian families my ass. Everything normally works out fine. Things sometimes go wrong as in heterosexual relationships, but it seems to be a lot rarer for there to be problems with Rainbow Flag donors.

It is *not* possible to get a known donor through *any* other sperm bank. What you can get is an ID-release donor. That means the children don't know who their donor is till he's 18, and even then some sperm banks let the donor change his mind.

- They'll test for the same diseases as any other bank.
- They do *not* take only gay donors.
- Not paying donors is a good thing, not a reason to criticise them.
- The AAP does *not* recommend that parents circumcise boys. In fact, no national medical organisation does.

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