Help: Looking for a Village

Hi,

I've posted this elsewhere on the site, but thought I would try here as well, just to get as much exposure as possible.

I am a single woman in my mid-thirties. I am intersted in having a baby with a gay man/couple, but am not proposing a classic surrogacy situation. Instead, what I am proposing is formation of a new family unit. I want very much to be a mother, and would like to have partial/most custody of any child that was conceived. In other words, I would get the weeks, the father/couple would get weekends and vacations. However, for the right guy/couple, I would be willing to consider more of a partial custody arrangement.

My reasons for this are complex. My steady boyfriend is much older than me, and for a variety of reasons, is not able to have a baby with me. But he is the love of my life, and I can't imagine not being with him. But I still want to be a parent, and he is willing to act as a step-parent of sorts.

I've considered just going to a sperm bank, but honestly, parenting is a huge responsibility. I am getting ready to go into a second career as a pediatric nurse, and prior to that spent ten years as a pre-school teacher. So I have seen first hand what a huge job it is. So I would like to undertake this with someone who is willing to take some financial and parenting responsibility.

In essence, I am looking for a like-minded man/couple who have liberal values similar to mine, who would want to share this experience and perhaps form a defacto family unit. I know this is unconventional, but I am hoping someone on this site might now someone who would be interested in such an arrangement.

A little more about me--like I said, mid-thirties, still in very good reproductive health, have worked with children in one way or another my entire proffesional career, so I know a great deal about parenting, or at least more than the usual single gal. I am very well-educated, liberal politically, and stable financially. I am, obviously, very gay-friendly, and my boyfriend's daughter, who may sometime soon be my step-daughter, is bisexual, so we already have that aspect to our family life. I live on the eastern seaboard, so would be looking for someone in that vicinity.

So, if anyone knows anyone, or could otherwise point me in the right direction, I would be really grateful. I will also be looking more in friend networks, but unfortunatelly, I have just moved to a new city, so I'm still just getting my friendship networks up and running.

Thank you for your time, and I hope to hear from anyone with any advice.