Bryce-Officially Mine!

It has been excessively long, there is more, and more that transpires between each of my entries. I had not even had the chance to log on and see what is new with those of you who I have had the wonderful chance to be in contact with. So, from the obvious to the not so obvious, in snippet form as per usual.

California-WOW a lot can change in a month. I am proud to be gay and from Massachusetts. Not unlike the shot heard around the world, the revolution started here and on some level so was the marriage revolution. We were the first state to recognize and legalize same sex marriage. As I look around the world and follow the happenings as it pertains to the marriage issue I see progress and change and I am proud we are part of that! To those of you in California, congratulations! To the rest of us, let us push from coast to coast until we meet in the middle recognized as family everywhere!

Bryce-We finalized Bryce’s adoption last Monday and I am finally relaxing. It was amidst a small group of important people in our life. The judge was wonderful and I broke into tears as both of my boys sat on the bench with the judge (feet up on the bench mind you! My heart in my throat, that this person could have me disbarred), and as the decree of the court was read, Ben reached over, kissed his brother, and put his arm around him. We legally joined as a family and the legal status was consistent with the emotional status. I had my family and my boys, I do not think there has been a moment in my life where I was more proud of myself or of my children or a time in which I felt as much joy for my future, whatever it may hold!

The boys are the future and now I have time to create my future! To those who have been to finalization you know the amount of stress that leaves your body after it is over and there is closure. I still have been recovering from it all and I am remembering how to think, my neck and shoulders are finally feeling like a body part as opposed to a weight.

Ben-is turning six (6) on Sunday. Where did the time go from baby to boy? We are going out tomorrow night to buy his Birthday present and have dinner together. He is getting a big boy bike. He is doing great in school, graduating from kindergarten and onto 1st grade. He is quite a handful at 6 but, I am very proud of him. He is playing soccer on a team (affectionately dubbed the bad news bears by all of the parents) it is a riot to watch but he does well and has a ball so that is what matters. However, I do feel strange being there as the single dad with 2 kids. How do I chase a 2 year old and watch a 6 year old at the same time? It is tough and there is little time that I notice that there is a distinct difference. However, I proudly show up with them and do it. It is not the gay part that is weird it is the single part and dividing my attention between two kids. I do the best I can, that is what I tell the kids and “I am only one person”

My Mom-is the same but is coming this weekend to the Beach house to celebrate Ben’s birthday so I am sure I will get more of the story. There is not a change and I continue to have big boy discussions with Ben nightly. That idea has turned into a great idea. It allows him to talk about everything and anything under the sun and is just his time. I wish my parents would do that with me now…

So what about ME-Well, I am dating…one guy who definitely has my attention and I want to spend more time together…I will leave at that as he reads this post . SO, make the next move there mister! The playgroup is growing and more and more are hearing about it. It is just nice that we all have a place to gather. I am about to embark on a journey working as a coordinator for a GLBT youth group. This will be a regional group for youth. I am very excited about that. I am waiting for the artist to finish the work on the children’s book I wrote. I hope to have that in NY this summer. If anyone knows a literary agent, let me know. I also have enough work written for the adult book written and I need to hand it over to the editor, as it is too personal for me to correct, as it is part of who I am. Work is the same and I am preparing for a new schedule as summer camp and new daycare for Bryce start after the Fourth of July holiday.

Overall, I am fine, the kids are alright and we are one cohesive unit, legally and otherwise. I am feeling my way through my future and it is time for me to grow and change. I hope you are all well and that your children are. To those of you chasing wishes and dreams (children) keep on it and have faith and hope, it can happen! If there is anything I can do send a note. Thanks for all the notes from all of you, my cyber-family!