he is outta control!!!!

Submitted by mommyzrus917 on Wed, 05/07/2008 - 6:02pm.

Moms

i need to ask a question to all you other moms..or dads out there. my little boy is now 19 months old. and as of now he has been our only child and yeah we spoil him a little bit. but ever since he was little we always set boundaries and rules of do's and dont's. now my partner and i felt it was very important that we both agreed and were on the same page when it came to what we allow and what we dont and more importantly HOW we discipline him. however our plans must not be working all too well. now he is a little older and more independent and he wants what he wants when he wants it and that is it! he throws himself on the floor, he screams and yells stop it, he shakes his head no. all just for telling him no jaidon you cant touch that. if he wanted to touch it...look out!!...we have read so many books and have tried everything. we are now doing the time out thing. he has two times to actually listen and put it down or do whatever we are instructing him to do...and if he acknowledges us but continues as he pleases...he gets put on his time out "X" for 5 minutes. but no matter how many times we do this it has no effect. PLEASE does anybody have any suggestions on how to deal with an outta control...almost 2 year old???

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LOL

Submitted by Melissa on Wed, 05/07/2008 - 6:58pm.

Whew girl...i don't have one but good luck..LOL. I guess that's why they call it the TERRIBLE two's...LOL

wow

Submitted by on Thu, 05/08/2008 - 10:19am.

First, keep time outs to one minuit of time out for every year of the childs age. (A 2 year old gets a 2 min time out). Second... Ignor him. He throws the tantrums and you put everything into stopping them... just walk away. If there is no one to "entertain" with the tantrum it will stop. Obvously, be within ear shot so you know that your child is safe and not crying out of pain or fear.
When my son calms down he comes to me for a hug and we talk about the situation. You will be surprised how fast a tantrum stops when it seems like no one is listening! Good luck!

thanks for the advice, but

Submitted by mommyzrus917 on Thu, 05/08/2008 - 5:22pm.

thanks for the advice, but thats what i already do. i ignore him while he is screaming and dont let him know that i am even listening. but he still continues. and when his time out is up i explain to him why he was in time out in the first place..and give him a hug and a kiss. but two seconds later he will start all over again. i hear htis advice form everybody but it just doesnt seem to be owrking for my little toddler.
~*Tracy*~

persistence

Submitted by dagnarus75 on Fri, 05/09/2008 - 12:47pm.

that last one was from me (sorry i forgot to log in) ... persistence is probably the key then. if he starts again, if it were me, i'd probably just send him back to time out for another two minutes. and another, and another. or try to change the subject! if he is throwing a fit because he can't play with something, remove it from his sight and replace it with something that is ok for him to play with. after you let him out of time out, before he can start acting up again, try taking him to the park.

i would ask a different question.. why can't he do what he wants to do? is it a safety hazard? or is it just that he is trying to get your attention and you're trying to do something that involves you not paying attention to him? i *do* have trouble when i am trying to concentrate on something and he wants to get my attention over and over again - time out isn't a solution there because he's not really doing anything wrong, he just needs to "give me a break" for a couple minutes. if that's the case, you're just gonna have to give him what he wants - attention. i've discovered that there's a very good reason parents say that when they get time to themselves all they want to do is sleep.. it's because there's absolutely no such thing as time to yourself any more! it doesn't exist.

thanks

Submitted by mommyzrus917 on Fri, 05/09/2008 - 6:47pm.

thats just it. it is ALWAYS his time. i only get time to do the things i need to do when he is napping or asleep for the night. he throws temper tantrums cuz i wont let him play or slam htings on our glass table in the living room. or when we are in public and he cant roam farther away from me than he would like. he will then throw himself on the ground and scream on top of his lungs. or when he doesnt want to go someplace or do something that we have to do. i think it is just the point that he has been so spoiled since he was born and now that he is getting a little bit older and is just used to having ALL the attention ALL the time. he is about to start in a daycare a couple days a week. so im hoping that being around other children his own age might help him with his tantrums.
~*Tracy*~

daycare

Submitted by dagnarus75 on Sat, 05/17/2008 - 12:09am.

I think daycare will probably help in both ways. For one, he's probably not going to get spoiled as much and will have to learn to deal with peers. For another, I think it's going to give you a break, which it sounds like is more what you want ;-) I can relate, I'm doing it the single daddy way, and I am so thankful for daycare that I don't even know how to put it into words. The people that work there need medals of some sort, they are the bestest.