Christmas - Jesus was the first...

Submitted by Donor Conceived on Fri, 12/25/2009 - 3:58pm

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...‘artifically conceived’ child person in historical record. That did not make Joseph any less his dad nor did it change their love for each other. But it goes without saying that Jesus knew who his father was and had very meaningful relationship with him. :)

Which I had written in response to this post on a fellow donor conceived's blog (http://donorchild.blogspot.com/2009/11/thanksgiving.html) which I shared again in response to this post (http://www.ruthblog.org/2009/12/16/anonymous-sperm-donors-and-family-sec...) --

Which another donor conceived man (Damian Adams who blogs at http://donatedgeneration.blogspot.com/) responded to:

December 21st, 2009 at 14:31
"If you are religious and your faith equates DI with adultery then you shouldn’t do it nor destigmatize it because that is your faith. No one shoulder alter their beliefs for their own gain. If they wish to continue to follow the path of DI then perhaps they need to find another faith or group that doesn’t look at it that way.

However, when analyzing the process of donating reproductive material it should not be such a subjective issue as religion. It should be an academic arguement based on knowledge of human and societal factors that determine our construct of family. And as yet I have not seen any model put forward that achieves this so that all parties including and most importantly the child benefit without possibility of harm from any donated arrangement.

Too many adult offspring report of their problems as a direct result of being donor conceived for this to be ignored. Their plight is reflected in the many facets that exist within the adopted community.
I see it everyday when I talk to other donated offspring and I see it everytime I look in the mirror."

Merry Christmas to all!

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Balanced dialogue is our goal.

Submitted by Donor Conceived on Sun, 12/27/2009 - 9:08pm.

"The opinions, beliefs and viewpoints expressed by Donor Conceived on this web site do not necessarily reflect the opinions, beliefs and viewpoints of ProudParenting. Balanced dialogue is our goal. Please share your opinion about this article in the "comments" section below."

I just wanted to thank the moderators of this blog for allowing me to post these opinions, beliefs and viewpoints. I greatly respect this blog/groups openness to balance. I KNOW not everyone will agree with me but as a 'donor' conceived person who absolutely adored her parents and family (bio/non bio) - as many other "out" donor conceived do - there is another side to all of this that is not easy to share when many of our loyalties and love pour out to family (bio/non bio) who love us unconditionally. Love DOES make a family BUT that is not the only factor to consider. It's complicated and this blog is my attempt to try to bring attention to those issues that many of us internalize but at the same time feel are VERY relevant.

Donor Conceived does not RULE this site!

Submitted by wondertwinmama on Wed, 12/30/2009 - 2:33pm.

Donor Conceived,

While I too greatly respect the moderators of this blog and their desire to have balance and allow everyone to share their views, I would ask you to consider how much you are respecting balance?

If you look through the blogs...from an outsiders perspective, it appears that you are dominating the platform. I understand why many do not post comments and do not desire to engage in dialogue with you, and I know that is out of your control...but again, if balance is the goal and something that we all desire to respect, possibly you might want to consider the true reason this blog was created in the first place and the majority of people that make up the membership. (Clue: the title of the site is PROUD PARENTING)

I just think it's sad that I used to come to this site daily - about 9-12 months ago - and I used to see posts about people trying to get pregnant, people going through fertility or adoption journeys who didn't want to feel alone, people who had just become parents and they were reaching out for support and people who had older kids and had a lot of experience under their belt who were providing us all with a bit of humor and perspective. And now, as I browse through the recent blogs...those people are gone....no longer posting.

I would just like to post and invite everyone to come back as I really enjoyed reading about your journeys!

And I ask you Donor Conceived to consider balance and mutual respect. What is received should also be given.

wonderwinmama, So sorry you

Submitted by Donor Conceived on Wed, 12/30/2009 - 5:33pm.

wonderwinmama,
So sorry you feel angry about my posts. I don't really understand your anger though. I am only sharing donor conceived perspectives that are rarely if ever discussed, especially in parenting groups - in order to add to the balance. I certainly am respectful.
Happy New Year!