Open doors and open hearts stifiled by hostility and resentment

An example of the way NOT to proceed:

http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/12/11/more-family-secrets/?scp=1...

New York Times
Motherload - Adventures in Parenting

December 11, 2009
by Lisa Belkin

A Child You Didn’t Know You Had

"We would love for it to be different. My back story is full of stepfamilies and adopted children and homosexual, interracial and interfaith marriages. I welcome the nontraditional and revel in it. Indeed, we would love to welcome this boy into our home with open arms, but he has always been too young and too far away to do so without first obtaining the permission of a hostile woman who sees my husband as little more than an open wallet and a sperm donor."