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hey u can still be happy for

NY_Butterflies917 — Sat, 10 May 2008 12:19:55 -0700

hey u can still be happy for u u dont want ur child to see u settled with his/her dad b/c u HAD to. i had my father and then a step father just b.c ur wth a girl doesnt mean u gotta cut off the dad and if u want him there and he wants to be and u think thats whats best let him stay but dont be unhappy ur self u dont wanna teach ur kid to settle and be unhappy b/c they HAVE to. good luck wit every thing

Chrys

congrats

njs0616 — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 19:54:01 -0800

congrats on being a momma :) good luck to you both!!

ugh...

njs0616 — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 19:50:41 -0800

your message breaks my heart because it is SO similar to mine. i ended up leaving him last week. i now live alone and we have had absolutely no contact since i left. i realize i did EXACTLY what you did. i was just going through the motions. i was so depressed living with him and living alone scared me because i thought it would be more depressing, but it's actually amazing! i'm more motivated to do things for me and my baby than i ever have been.

another thing, i regret every single day that i told him i'm pregnant. i'm going to try to talk to a lawyer and see what my custody options are. i think i have a chance of having him not even get visitation rights, but that's a whole different story :) well good luck to you and your baby and congrats!! thanks for the feedback it helps alot knowing i'm not alone in this world. i felt like such a horrible person for leaving and hurting her so bad for a man, but now i'm realizing it was for the best. i would never find out who i am if it wasn't for that decision.

keep me posted on how the pregnancy goes and what your having!!! i'm excited for you :)

thanks again,
Nicki

Kinda same boat

Wed, 30 Jan 2008 05:09:38 -0800

I did not date for almost three years at that point I met a very special woman and fell in love. I have never been so happy in my life. A man I thought I was in love with came bac into my life and I left her for a "normal life" I ended up pregnant and alone for the fact being I couldn't just go through the actions of a "straight life" I could not be unhappy like that. He does not know about the child and I do not plan on telling him. My family is very supportive of me being a single mother. I will one day meet a woman who will share my life with me. And untill then I will raise my child. A child DOES NOT need a mother and a father but is great you have the opprotunity to give that to your child. But you don't HAVE to be in a relationship with the father to give that to your child. There is visitation and joint custody people do it every day. Follow your heart and good luck. BTW I am due in April and have gone the past 7 months alone the woman I left to be with the man is still a good friend but in no way will ever be my partner again. I hurt her too much but life goes on right?

Happy

proudparent2008 — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 16:37:02 -0800

I am so happy that I am going to have a baby.I am so exicted and I can't wait.My baby is going to be due in September.