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Thanks for posting! I am

mjoy — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 20:43:05 -0700

Thanks for posting! I am currently doing a paper for my ethics class and live in Colorado Springs. Do you ever do interviews or talk with students about the whole process you went through with your adoption. It would be amazing to have someone to talk to about all of this rather than reading all about it on the internet. Let me know if that would be something you might be willing or even open to doing. I want to be educated on all sides.
Thanks!
mjoy

Glad that all is well with you....

Papi to Maria — Sat, 31 May 2008 21:19:31 -0700

Congrats on dating and the finalization.

This is NOT reverse discrimination

Wed, 28 May 2008 14:42:54 -0700

One needs to look at the report (follow the link) and not just the brief summary above. The report does not call for an outright ban on interracial adoptions. It calls for an assessment of a potential parent's ability to help a child cope with complex social issues--issues that will surely arise in one form or another. Whether we like it or not there IS racism in America. There are cultural differences, too. The report, wisely I think, simply asks for the law to allow assurances that a prospective parent is prepared to help a child deal with these issues.

As the adoptive white father of a black child (a man now, actually) I can assure you that cultural issues DO arise. Preparation, support and LOTS of emotional resilience are vital. My son Kenny and I negotiated many rough seas together.

As GLBT parents I think we have the potential to be among the best interratial adoptive families around. Each of us has learned to survive and thrive in a homophobic society. We have the resilience our children need, and any support we can get is precious. If we begin an open dialogue about how to support children who are adopted into multi-ethnic familes (and queer ones, of course) I'm all for it. I believe the children will benefit.

Potential for more problems

blueorbeyes — Tue, 27 May 2008 16:02:11 -0700

This new research seems to be a set up for more bias. It creates an Illusory Correlation between the race of the parents and the race of the adoptive children. By pointing out racial differences (non-colorblind) between the potential parents and the adoptive children, it would create an ever wider "in-group vs. outgroup" (i.e., "us" vs. "them) gap.

This report also seems to be condoning a form of racism by encouraging potential adoptive parents to specifically adopt like-raced children. How are we as a country and culture to decrease (and eliminate?) racism if potential adoptive parents are prescribed children of their same race? The color-blind approach seems to be an optimal way of closing the gap on racism. And, amending it would just be a self-fulfilling prophecy towards racial insensitivity and stereotypes.

w00t

dagnarus75 — Wed, 21 May 2008 09:56:17 -0700

haha, did i prompt the update? congrats, sounds like a BIG relief.

exciting

mommyzrus917 — Tue, 20 May 2008 15:08:47 -0700

wow!!! thanks for making me CRY!!! lol, congratulations to you and your family. stories like yours gives me hope that our world really might be changing.
~*Tracy*~

Gay Marriage

Tue, 20 May 2008 08:39:12 -0700

Here in Massachusetts we had a little more time between the decision in November 2003 to the actual gay marriages on May 17th 2004. For gay couples who have been in relationships for years this isn't a problem but for those caught up in the moment counseling is a good place to start to know what the legalities are. Marriage is a basic civil right that should be attainable by all Americans if they choose. For those who have family who are uncomfortable with this check out our short produced to educate & defuse the controversy. It has a way of opening closed minds & provides some sanity on the issue: www.OUTTAKEonline.com

Surrogate available

Mon, 12 May 2008 11:31:01 -0700

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Gay Adoption

Sun, 04 May 2008 09:29:45 -0700

My partner and I have been together 10 years, she has not had the chance to experence the wonderful feeling of motherhood, but I have I have raised a daughter and she is 33 a college graduate, married and very happy.
I would love to have the chance to give a child a chance for a loving and careing home. WE can make a difference in a childs life and a chance to make it in this world as a well rounded adult.

Hi. I read your post and

Mon, 21 Apr 2008 17:43:49 -0700

Hi. I read your post and while my partner and I are working through surrogacy to become parents, we read a book titled, "Gay Dads" by David Strah. The book is a compilation of stories of families that came about by adoption, foster care, surrogacy, marriage (and then divorce) and yes, co-parenting (pg 77, "a fatherhood not by design"). I bought the book at Barnes and Noble and I think it could provide a bit of insight for you. Good luck.

Couple's adopting

Tue, 05 Feb 2008 09:58:52 -0800

I agree that a married couple may be more stable for a child then a couple who have not decided to make that commitment because if they decided not to be together it might create an un-stable environment for the child. Yet, there are couples who have been together for years and have a very stable relationship and would be perfect for parent hood. Also, I am a Lesbian and I believe that if they pass this measure then the state should allow gay and lesbian couples to marry because they are discriminating against that group of people. There are a huge amount of gay and lesbian couples out there that would love to be joined in wedlock and would make better parents then some straight couples. Being gay and lesbian is not a disease, you can't catch it. There was a time in our history where white people beleived that when they shook the hand of an African American that it was necessary to rub your hand off afterwards as if you can catch black, which is ridiculous, well preventing children from having a loving family and caring, responsible parents, and a good stable life just because your religion says it is wrong for two people of the same sex to sleep together is just as ridiculous and it is almost cruel. Open up your eyes, there are more important things in this world to put your energy and means in to then just focusing on preventing loving human beings, who would make amazing parents, the right to adopt. WAKE UP!

WoW!

pedudek — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 16:34:04 -0800

Congratulations! We're so happy for you and your family.

Gratz to Joshua

GeneTroy — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 22:46:55 -0800

Joshua,

You're a very lucky young man; you have two dads that love you very much and were brave enough to accept your choosing them as your dads.

You're lucky, too, in that what we find today to be an extraordinary leap in family law, you will see as "the way it's always been." What a wonderful world you have ahead of you!

Best wishes to you and your dads!

Gene

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

njs0616 — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 06:38:48 -0800

CONGRATULATIONS!! That is wonderful and I'm so happy to hear of open-mindedness, especially from the government!! Good luck to you and your family!!

Nicki
:)

Congratulations!!!

Mark — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 17:59:28 -0800

All of the hard work paid off. You guys are leading the way for others.