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totally right!

giggleblue — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 12:05:03 -0700

even a known donor insemination contract will not hold up in court. it is only used to state the intentions at the time of the donation.

unless you are 100% sure that this won't be an issue, i would encourage everyone to use a bank.

using a known donor is just as expensive as a bank, if you handle the known donor relationship properly. and by properly, i mean hiring an attorney for both yourself and the donor and drafting a contract.

be blessed.

my experience

Sat, 12 Apr 2008 18:52:20 -0700

hi! i just happened to stumble upon your question and i talked about this subject in my blog.

check it out here. it's tagged in the ttc section.

best of luck! be blessed!

http://specificdestiny.blogspot.com/

sperm bank vs. known doner

ladymadonna — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 21:55:00 -0700

My partner and I are interested in TTC in the new year. We are in a delima now about wether we should use a close friend and a known doner or a sperm bank. The known doner has expressed interest in becoming parents with my partner for several years and they are very close. I am not sure if this will be in our best ineterest or the baby's for that matter. On one hand we would like our baby to be able to know his/her father, however this seems to imply complications legaly in the future. He has expressed that he would like the baby to cary his last name and to have monthly or anual visitation. I already have 3 children myself and have had alot of drama with custody and visitation so I know how ugly people can be in these situations, so this causes some fear on my part as far as going thru this at all. We live in Nevada which is not a very gay friendly state to begin with so I am not sure what the laws are regarding second parent adoption, or open adoption for that matter...

Does anyone have expierence with this to share?

Rainbow Flag is a great choice

Fri, 11 Apr 2008 10:52:28 -0700

Dangerous for lesbian families my ass. Everything normally works out fine. Things sometimes go wrong as in heterosexual relationships, but it seems to be a lot rarer for there to be problems with Rainbow Flag donors.

It is *not* possible to get a known donor through *any* other sperm bank. What you can get is an ID-release donor. That means the children don't know who their donor is till he's 18, and even then some sperm banks let the donor change his mind.

- They'll test for the same diseases as any other bank.
- They do *not* take only gay donors.
- Not paying donors is a good thing, not a reason to criticise them.
- The AAP does *not* recommend that parents circumcise boys. In fact, no national medical organisation does.

Rainbow Flag is a Bad Choice

Sun, 07 Oct 2007 15:24:54 -0700

Please reconsider recommending Rainbow Flag Health Services. They are dangerous for Lesbian families because they encourage the donor to have a relationship with the child. No matter what legal documents both parties sign, this has repeatedly led to court-mandated custody or visitation "in the best interests of the child". It is perfectly easy to get known donors through pretty much every sperm bank. Most banks offer the option of knowable donors (when the child is of age). Also, Rainbow Flag goes against the health recommendations of respected doctors' organizations like the American Academy of Pediatricians by insisting that parents not circumcise their sons. I am suspicious about this organization because it does not test for very many diseases, doesn't pay donors, only takes gay men, sets families up for legal trouble and tries to force parenting decisions on recipients.