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hey u can still be happy for

NY_Butterflies917 — Sat, 10 May 2008 12:19:55 -0700

hey u can still be happy for u u dont want ur child to see u settled with his/her dad b/c u HAD to. i had my father and then a step father just b.c ur wth a girl doesnt mean u gotta cut off the dad and if u want him there and he wants to be and u think thats whats best let him stay but dont be unhappy ur self u dont wanna teach ur kid to settle and be unhappy b/c they HAVE to. good luck wit every thing

Chrys

And also. . .

Brwn.Skn — Fri, 09 May 2008 13:55:22 -0700

The state of Tennessee will allow two mothers or two fathers to be on the birth certificate. . .when I had a partner our plan was to have a scheduled C-section or induction in TN because we live in AL. . .but now that I have no partner. . I don't have to do that extra traveling. . .Good Luck!

And also. . .

Fri, 09 May 2008 13:53:06 -0700

For anyone else that may be reading this and have the same question. . .the state of TN will allow both mothers to be on the birth certificate as well. . .I'm in AL and when I had a partner the plan was to go to TN for labor and delivery so both our names would be on the certificate. . .

2 moms on birth certificate

my2moms — Sat, 03 May 2008 13:23:05 -0700

Our first daughter was born in MA where we are legally married and we are both on her birth certificate. One as mother and one as second parent. With our newest daughter, she was born in ME where we are "roomates" so right now only the biological mom is on the birth certificate and the father space in blank. But we are in the process of a 2nd parent adoption (which have been legal here for less than a year) and then we will both be on the birth certificate!

we had our baby

Tue, 29 Apr 2008 21:57:56 -0700

my partner and i had our baby in San Francisco. his birth certificate has both of our names on it. i am listed as the father since she was the one who carried the baby. even with my name on the birth certificate we were still afraid that we might have a problem if he were to get ill in other states. so we applied for me to legally adopt him. we had an social worker to come and visit and check my background. in 6 plus months i became his adopted parent. we went to court and got sworn in and sign papers. Now I carry a copy of his birth certificate and the legal paper that shows i am his legal parent in my wallet. it is scary and we did everything to try to protect him and us. we started to write our will too.

one is use

mommyzrus917 — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 10:17:34 -0700

i use rainbow light prenatals. they are totally all natural and i have a very sensitive stomach and they do not make me feel sick at all. ive heard from alot of people that they are really a good choice of prenatal. if you're interested.

~*Tracy & Crystalyn*~

Hi. I read your post and

Mon, 21 Apr 2008 17:43:49 -0700

Hi. I read your post and while my partner and I are working through surrogacy to become parents, we read a book titled, "Gay Dads" by David Strah. The book is a compilation of stories of families that came about by adoption, foster care, surrogacy, marriage (and then divorce) and yes, co-parenting (pg 77, "a fatherhood not by design"). I bought the book at Barnes and Noble and I think it could provide a bit of insight for you. Good luck.

my partner and i had our

mommyzrus917 — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 11:45:19 -0700

my partner and i had our first child in NY state and as far as i know we were both not allowed to be listed on the birth certificate. however i have read a couple of other stories with two fathers being on there. im sorry i oculdnt help you but if you find out another way of going about it could you blog the info i would love the information and im sure many others would as well!! good luck with your baby
~*Tracy & Crystalyn*~

Complex Sexuality

Ty_N_Al — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 11:29:17 -0700

Youth sexuality is such a complex thing. I feel like a caring community should encourage and discuss the complexities of sexuality, sexual desire, and dating. However, in many communities discussing anything surrounding sex other than "don't get pregnant" or "don't get anyone pregnant" is still taboo. We have to move out of an area of discomfort and move into one of interaction. Maybe this tragic death could have been avoided.

"I have come to believe over and over again that what is most important to me must be spoken, made verbal and shared, even at the risk of having it bruised or misunderstood. That the speaking profits me, beyond any other effect." - Audre Lorde

hi!!

giggleblue — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 10:39:33 -0700

i saw you on here, and just wanted to post.

great book, btw. we have read that one also. we have also read the new essential guide to lesbian conception, pregnancy, and birth. this one covers more on the conception topic, which is a big part of the entire process, at least for lesbians.

we also got a copy of the legal guide for lesbian and gay couples. it's good because it has a donor insemination contract included, and also other forms that will help you maintain your relationship in the eyes of the law.

although this book is not about conceiving, we also have lesbian couples: a guide to creating health relationships. if anything, this serves as a conversation starter for us, and we actually read it together before we got married. it helped us talk through a lot of things, and even covers parenting in a few of the chapters.

i am blogging about our experience, among other things at http://specificdestiny.blogspot.com/

posts related to the ttc topic are listed in the subject matter section. keep in mind that we are just starting out and will be trying for the first time next month, however, feel free to track our progress...

be blessed.

Me too!

souldancer2828 — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 11:41:40 -0700

My partner and I are at the same stage. We've just started talking to other lesbian couples who got pregnant, I'm looking into what my insurance will cover, and we're discussing the big parenting questions (this morning it was, what will we tell them about sex and drugs).

I'm going to check out the book you're reading, it sounds good. Just wanted to say hello and to let you know you're not alone!

"I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I'm not."

Wow!

Ty_N_Al — Sun, 06 Apr 2008 16:30:46 -0700

This is exactly what my partner and I are trying to do. We are in the early stages of research and this post has really helped.

Thank you very much for you

gee — Sun, 06 Apr 2008 09:39:04 -0700

Thank you very much for you responce

in vitro

Sat, 05 Apr 2008 16:20:00 -0700

in vitro fertilization.
first place to check is both you & your's health insurance. see what they cover, what you pay out of pocket, etc. if you cant find it in your documents call the number and prepare to hold.
Then check your general area for a fertility clinic that does in vitro fertilization. Make the appointment, go in tell them your intentions and find out your next steps from the professionals.
Then find a sperm bank either in your area or via internet, just google sperm banks and you will find a few. You can look at everything right online. You will have to probably pay out of pocket for that, and that stuff isnt cheap, but what do I know? Thats why you check your health insurance first.
So, Thats where you start.
Or you could first check your finances...
That was our original intention as well until we seen the price tag. If all goes well on my end I will have a better way to spend the $5,000-$10,000.
Much luck to you!
kt

congrats

njs0616 — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 19:54:01 -0800

congrats on being a momma :) good luck to you both!!