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Surrogate available

Mon, 12 May 2008 11:31:01 -0700

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Well Duh...

Tue, 06 May 2008 06:07:40 -0700

Sorry, but this is stupidity on the part of ALL GAY PEOPLE WHO STILL LIVE IN FLORIDA!! Much less, this country. Why in the world would you adopt (and pay taxes. and contribute to society) in a state that gives NO RIGHTS to gay people. Then turn around and bitch when they pass a law like this, like it was a shock. I get it, the weather is nice. But if you trade some comfort for some peace of mind, then you deserve what you get. My bf and I are in Michigan, planning to move to London, Ontario. And I'll be outside shoveling snow off my car, cursing the very existence of winter, BUT I'll be legally married with legally adopted kids.

Hi. I read your post and

Mon, 21 Apr 2008 17:43:49 -0700

Hi. I read your post and while my partner and I are working through surrogacy to become parents, we read a book titled, "Gay Dads" by David Strah. The book is a compilation of stories of families that came about by adoption, foster care, surrogacy, marriage (and then divorce) and yes, co-parenting (pg 77, "a fatherhood not by design"). I bought the book at Barnes and Noble and I think it could provide a bit of insight for you. Good luck.

what if?

Wed, 26 Mar 2008 11:40:49 -0700

I hear you. I am in a similar situation right now. I have known this guy since 7 months, totally and madly in love with him. He has 2 kids aged 5 and 7, their mother passed away 3 years ago. We are totally in love but he is not out to anyone. He decided to come out to his mother in law who takes care of the kids when he is at work, she was supportive but concerned for the kids. To my surprise 2 days ago he ended the relationship because he feels he is not giving the children 100%, and says I am the reason why he is not doing that. I know he loves me a lot. I have been very accomodating and I will still support him if he chooses to continue on his path. I love the kids dearly too and I am willing to do whatever it takes to make things work.

I am sorry I was supposed to tell you something to solve your problem and ended up telling you about mine...

For what it's worth, I think the kids come first for sure, but that does not mean there is no room for a partner. I think the key is finding someone who is understanding, stable, and willing to go through thick and thin because there will be ups and downs in any relationship. I think constant communication and sharing of fears and concerns is a must for things to work. Taking rash decisions doesn't help anyone in such a situation. My advice to you is to assess how much you love this guy, and if the answer is you love him with all your heart, then ask yourself, how good is he to your kids, have a conversation with him on the topic, tell him your concerns and see if he can address them or see if you can come to common grounds, if not, then you can think about other options and make up your mind.

If you are truely in love, do not have doubts, work it through, I hope you won't shut him off like the guy i love dearly did to me. Work it out, talk, consult, cry, but communicate and keep an open mind.

Not sure if that helps, I hope it does.

Nadeem
nadeem_mansour@hotmail.com

What beautiful children you

kennyb — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 16:46:20 -0700

What beautiful children you have. We also have adopted one child, finalized in March of 2006.

It is so nice to find other partnered couples who have adopted!

Kenny

seems valid that supplementing with the bacteria will help

Wed, 20 Feb 2008 13:43:50 -0800

right?
first baby came c/s and had eczema at 2m
second was va... but show signs at 6m
I use a natural oil to help them build the immune system ans see very minor flares since- at www.katuri.com
Many people swear by probiotics
some by lactobacillus tabs
and many do dairy elimination which is very sad

Gay Dads Australia

Sun, 10 Feb 2008 14:03:45 -0800

Thanks for the post on us Gay Dads DownUnder! We are a relatively new group which has been operating for about the last 5 years. Recently, there has been a huge increase in Gay Dads in OZ, some via surrogacy and co-parenting, others who are just coming out and becoming part of our community. It is an exciting time for all of us and it is great to know that there are other groups and proud parents on the other side of the globe!

Cheers
Rodney Cruise
www.gaydadsaustralia.com

Overprotective dad

Fri, 25 Jan 2008 12:33:28 -0800

I think your story is wonderful.

My partner and I have recently adopted a 1 year old. I thought I would have had a hard time being a gay couple with a child but guess what, putting a baby bump hat on my "less than sure footed" learning to walk toddler was more of a freak show than we were. At the park we heard sly comments and ohs and ahs about bubble wrap kids. Thing is, she was learning to walk for goodness sake and we didnt want here to bump her head so we got her a Thudguard. It is so cute and very protective. You should see it, www.thudguard.com and tell me that this is being overprotective; if you think we are then you have never loved a child as much as we do!

John and Kimho

My opinion

brghtbear — Sun, 13 Jan 2008 18:32:29 -0800

You know your kid.

I told both of my kids when they were 4 and 6. At that time it did not really register what it all meant. They just knew that their dad had a boy friend. Previous to this I had talks with the boys about sexuality (on their level). The question came up when were watching the news or something and a boy kissed a boy. (A man kissed a man). They asked me what happened. I told them that some boys want girlfriends and some girls want boyfriends, but that some boys like boys and some girls like girls and that is why they saw a boy kiss a boy. When I came out to them, I was able to reference that previous conversation.

Whether I had that conversation or not, I would have still told them, on an age appropriate level. After telling them, I stayed open, and continue to stay open to any questions that they may currently have. Never under-estimate what a kid can handle. You will just have to judge for yourself in knowing your kid.

I believe in being honest with my kids. If I am not honest with them and constantly hold things back, then I am teaching them that it is OK to be dishonest with me. I told them and they had questions, but they are happy that I told them.

You know your kid.

leave the kid out of it

Sun, 13 Jan 2008 06:03:16 -0800

If your wife and you are on good terms - discuss this issue with her prior to speaking to your son about it - you don't want conflicting message from your wife; if she brings it up with him later on. If you are not on friendly terms with her..then I would say read up on this issue...and leave your sexuality out of it....it's too much information for your kid to handle at this time - knowing that you just recently got divorced... not everything is about you....

Scott

scottmhines — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 19:30:49 -0800

Scott Hines
scottmhines@aol.com

Baby Gear

scottmhines — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 19:05:47 -0800

Good grief. Is that a baby back-pack or a Volkswagen?

Scott Hines
scottmhines@aol.com

Happy New Year!

Green Dads — Fri, 04 Jan 2008 14:26:55 -0800

Just wanted to say hi from upstate New York.
Steven, Brian and Darius

Happy New Year~

Wed, 02 Jan 2008 21:33:58 -0800

Great Photo!!! Everyone looks so happy and loved!

Nope

brghtbear — Tue, 01 Jan 2008 13:58:59 -0800

Thanks for sharing your story. I shed a tear in memory of my first time taking my sons to daycare. I know the feeling.

Also, I thought my kids were kinda cute and kinda funny looking when they were babies too. Sometimes, when they are not acting as cute as they could, I still think that. LOL! You are not a bad parent.