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single dad of 4

Fri, 04 Jul 2008 20:40:30 -0700

I am a single dad of 4 wonderful boys that I adopted at different times from foster care. For me this was the most logical place to get a child from since there are so many children in foster care who need homes. My first son was 2 years old when I got him, my second was 8 months old, my third was 5 weeks old, and my last son was 5 years old. We are one big happy family representing various ethnic groups but all that matters to me is that I am a father. If anyone would like information about adopting from foster care please feel free to email me. Chris (cwor0306@aol.com)

So excited for you

The3Bs — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 07:51:46 -0700

Great for you, please let me know how it is going. It is not always easy but rewarding at best.

the first sonogram

soon2bdad — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 10:54:16 -0700

We just came from the first sonogram. Since I elected to implant two embryos to increase the probability of one taking, I was nervous of having twins. Since the nurse at the IVF clinic had said there was every reason to believe a singleton would be routine and twins would present extra concerns, I decided I should hope for one. And one healthy heartbeat it is! 163 beats per minute. 155-195 is normal in the 9th week. At first the technician was looking around at the ovaries and I was getting a little worried because I couldn't see anything that even suggested a fetus, then all of a sudden he appeared. I was amazed at how clearly I could see the beating heart. I was smiling from ear to ear and tearing up. When the sound came on and I could hear her beating heart...well, it's just an amazing moment. I wondered what happened to the other embryo and the nurse said it is simply absorbed into the woman's uterus. The whole thing is just amazing.

MN Single Gay Dad Adopts 15 Year Old MN Boy

Tue, 17 Jun 2008 10:47:44 -0700

I can really relate to everyone's comments on here. I gave up dating and forming a family to go it alone down the adoption route. But boy did all of that experience trying to 'raise' a suitable partner come in handy now that I am a dad to a teen! No - really. It was a long road. I think the adoption agencies all have a 'random forms generator' that shoots out a new form to be completed every so often. My first career was a CPA and I'd rather do taxes again than go through this process all over. At any rate, I made it and a 14 year old MN boy moved in with me last June. We celebrated our our first year, his second birthday togehter (now age 16) and my second fathers day. Ironically, I found that even within our GLBT community I was again a 'pink elephant' not only wanting to be a single gay dad but also adopting a teen from this country. They older kids really aren't so bad as everyone seems to think and they do need loving homes too. Happy to share expereinces with other gay dads. Randy (randy55410@yahoo.com)

So, I know I'm late. . .but. . .

Brwn.Skn — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 09:12:28 -0700

You should check out my first blog! Basically the same story with a different gender!! I'm TTC now and hoping to inseminate this cycle!! We'll see!! I'm sending Babydust and well wishes your way!! I wonder if there is a "Single Dad By Choice" organization like "Single Mom By Choice?" Hmm. . .

I've been doing a lot of reading and the books have been great!! I recommend them to you as well. ..although they are for womyn, I'm sure the logic works for single dads as well. . .

Choosing Single Motherhood by Mikki Morrisette
Single Mother By Choice by Jane Mattes

and of course the Amazon.com search engine is the best!!!

Good luck dads!!

"Another soon 2 be single gay dad" is me!

NewDadMTL — Sat, 31 May 2008 21:48:44 -0700

So! I signed up to be a member here and wanted to let you guys know that it was me posted above blog. (We are doing our first ultrasound in 10 days.. I just can't wait to see it!!)

Another soon 2 be single gay dad

Thu, 29 May 2008 15:28:49 -0700

Hi! I am so happy to find this page.. I was trying to find a blog site or support groups for single gay dads. I really could not find any.. except, today this wonderful story came up during a search. Wow, you and I are Jan baby buddies.. I too gave up on mating with a partner, and began my journey to create my family on my own. It's been ups and downs since 2005 (more like downs and downs you know what I mean..) but hey my surromom and I are surely 5 wk pregnant! I began wondering how I would come out to my own child and what I would tell my neighbors when a baby pops up out of no where (not that I did not think about it before)! Well, it seems that my real journey has just begun. Lots of waves to go through but I will be happy and proud tackling them.

Single guy soon 2 b dad

soon2bdad — Fri, 23 May 2008 06:36:28 -0700

Love your story!
I started with adoption two years ago and recently decided to have my own child via surrogacy. I was trying to adopt a toddler but eventually the process was turning into a saga. My attorney encouraged me to pursue surrogacy and referred me to a really great agency in Orlando. That was last fall and today begins the 7th week of our pregnancy. Now that I am at this point with the baby due next January, I feel sort of useless. I speak to my baby's surromom almost every day and I have her put the phone beneath her belly and I speak to my baby. I jot down ideas for names and work on converting the guest room to a baby's room. If anyone has any thoughts on how I can use this time most wisely, bring it on.

Overprotective dad

Fri, 25 Jan 2008 12:33:28 -0800

I think your story is wonderful.

My partner and I have recently adopted a 1 year old. I thought I would have had a hard time being a gay couple with a child but guess what, putting a baby bump hat on my "less than sure footed" learning to walk toddler was more of a freak show than we were. At the park we heard sly comments and ohs and ahs about bubble wrap kids. Thing is, she was learning to walk for goodness sake and we didnt want here to bump her head so we got her a Thudguard. It is so cute and very protective. You should see it, www.thudguard.com and tell me that this is being overprotective; if you think we are then you have never loved a child as much as we do!

John and Kimho

hello

dagnarus75 — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 08:59:02 -0800

I read thru your entire blog last night, and that's what convinced me to join the site. Thanks for sharing. I applaud that you have gone ahead with what you wanted despite not having a partner. I'm in a similar situation (with the exception that I am not sure I even want a partner), and it's good to see people that know what they want and go after it against the odds.

Hello

The3Bs — Sun, 25 Nov 2007 01:43:10 -0800

Hey Case:

Would love to assist. Feel free to send me your number and I will give you a call as a discussion on here would be a bit difficult.

Brian

This is such a great story

Sun, 11 Nov 2007 20:40:45 -0800

I'm a prospective single gay dad, just beginning the process of checking out adoption resources. Your story was really encouraging - thanks for sharing it. I'm in Washington DC, and checking out adoption possibilities from Guatemala. Any suggestions you have would be much appreciated. Thanks, Case

Hello

The3Bs — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 10:53:50 -0700

Hey I did not catch that you had posted a comment! I am happy to meet you. Would love to chat being that we are so close. Also, there is a GLBT playgroup, in North Andover monthly, the kids are from 4 months up. I will send a private message with my number.

Brian

nice story! we're 2 dads in

moosehill — Sun, 28 Oct 2007 16:38:27 -0700

nice story! we're 2 dads in southern nh-- londonderry.
adopted (from china) our older boy in 1995, and our younger
son (also from china) two years later. they're 12 and 10
now!
we like where we are, and what we're doing. and we're quite content in londonderry, but we certainly miss being close to other gay dads. this town (like most others!) is so...hetero. we're fairly active in a COLAGE chapter, loosely based on the nh seacoast. anyway, i wanted to say 'hello', and hoped that you'd answer! truly, bruce (and peter)

Adventures in Being a single gay father

The3Bs — Thu, 09 Aug 2007 15:09:08 -0700

Adventures in Being a Single Gay Parent-

There are only two things I ever wanted to be in this life, a husband and a father. Now, imagine watching men run for the next county, when you tell them. To shorten a very long story, I decided to become a father as becoming a husband was proving much more difficult. I was beginning to think I had a better chance at pregnancy. So after a period of interviews and navigation through the complex legal and emotional process I got a call on the day before Thanksgiving 2004, telling me that there was a little boy who was two years old.