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femmelaw — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 22:49:34 -0700

Thanks for the recomendation. Boston is definitely too far away, but I will contact them to see if they have any referrals for someplace closer.

Congratulations to you, your partner, and your family on the upcoming ceremony! I am currently working on an in-depth comparative analysis of LGBTQ family rights in each state - I'll be happy to let you know of any advocacy work being done in your state when I get that far, if you're interested.

Good luck to you too!

Thanks

femmelaw — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 22:06:30 -0700

I'm not making any assumptions about your age or condition at all, but my doctor basically told me that if I am going to be able to conceive at all (and I may not even be able to) now would be the best time because I am only 22 and if the PCOS continues progressing I'll probably have endometriosis and premature ovarian failure by the time I'm 30, which may require a hysterectomy because of the increased risk of uterine and ovarian cancer combined with my family background of these diseases. I have always been in awe of women's pregnant bodies - I think it is a beautiful natural ability that we have to create new life from scratch, so it is very important to me to at least try to experience that at least once in my life. We both think adoption is a wonderful thing and are definitely going to adopt in the future whether I am able to get pregnant or not. Before she became ill and had to go out on permanent disability my fiance was a social worker and we both worked in a local shelter for abused and homeless children, which has made us exceedingly aware of the need for good adoptive families. Congratulations for choosing such a beautiful way to build a family.
You are right to be biased - I jokingly threaten my family that I am running away to live in Canada almost daily - especially if our country continues on the disastrous path it has been on! Honestly, though, I don't think I could leave all of my family and friends to live in a country where I know nobody at all. We plan on vacationing there sometime, though, and we've heard it's a wonderful place to live as a lesbian (or as any person desiring fairness and fundamental rights).

Definately find a new Dr.

juju1030 — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 07:08:02 -0700

I am sorry to hear of your struggles with your physician, that is completely ridiculous, and you and your fiance should not have to deal with that at all. I do not live close to you to have names of more competent Drs. but I believe that there may be some resources in the back of the book The Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy for Lesbians. I had a friend that used Fenway Community health center in Boston, but I think that is likely too far for you. You could try giving them a call though as they may have some places closer to you to check out anyway - the number is 617-267-0900 or www.fenwayhealth.org ...

I completely agree with you about the marriage issues that you stated, my fiance and I are having a comittment ceremony in August but we will surely make it legal as soon as we can. For our family I think it has become important for us to have an actual ceremony to solidify our family, even though it is not legal yet in our state to have a civil union, or obviously a legal marraige.

Good luck to you!

Wow .. I have a similar

Momx2 — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 01:12:21 -0700

Wow .. I have a similar medical condition, and my wife and I have decided that we are most likely going to adopt. However I think that if giving birth is absolutely what you want, then you should definitely fight the fight, find a better doctor who will respect your wishes and your rights, and bring a beautiful child into this world.

Also: I may be biased, but I'm Canadian and legally married to an incredible woman. You could always get married in Canada and have FULL rights as a married couple here. Just a thought :o) Take care.

Just beginning

femmelaw — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 23:55:58 -0700

I am so glad I found this site. My fiance and I are just beginning the insemination process to start our family. I am in the middle of a cycle now, so we'll probably start inseminating in August/September depending on when I ovulate.