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Ty_N_Al — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 10:13:25 -0700

I find it comforting that to know that other couples are thinking about the various issues surrounding parenting that my partner and I are thinking about.

congratulations

cocolala — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 18:40:14 -0700

Congratulations on your decision to go forward with the progress! I wish you a successful journey to pregnancy. My partner and I are still in the early stages of planning talking about which one of us is going to be the first to be pregnant. Since my partner is a few years older I think she will go first. Some things we've talked about are whether to ask male family members to possibly donate. But we are going to have to think out all the implications to that. Also we are thinking a lot about bonding circumstances. I've been thinking that maybe we can get pregnant within a certain amount of time of each other so that we can take turns with breast feeding. But that might just be economically unfeasible... In any case I am not too worried about bonding. Raising a child biological or not is a bond strengthening experience in it's own right. And I know our children will feel connected to the two of us as parents. There was a great episode of the PBS show In the Life about gay parenting several years ago that just floored me. Kids love their parents biological or not and some parents choose to not tell their kids who the biological parent is (even though it can be pretty obvious sometimes!) Good Luck!!!

Parent to Be

Tue, 01 Apr 2008 10:29:35 -0700

Being a soon to be father (5 Wks) there are many questions that my wife and I have. Having expereinced individuals to bounce those off of his huge for us. We are a new area with out much time to attend physical get gathers though.

However there is a large amount of online support that you can find. We have signed up for several websites focused on sharing experiances. Our favorite right now is www.ourbabysteps.com becuase it is not focused on just mothers but fathers as well. Being a new dad I have alot of questions I want answered and its good to be able to get perspectives from fathers and mothers. The internet is a great resource and it is helping us alot in this area.

BLOG: Who will be the bio-mom? Will there be repercussions?

Jeff — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 07:45:22 -0700

ProudParenting.com member - SarahM - is chronicling the steps she's taking with her partner, to build a family.

She writes:

"I am very new to this site, but I am just desperate to communicate with people that are and have gone through the same things..."

At first, the couple struggled with the options available to them. They talked about adoption versus insemination, then decided on insemination. But the decision came after much processing of the fears that can arise during the decision-making process.