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Ty_N_Al — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 09:40:33 -0700

My partner does not want to carry a child. I only want to carry a child if it is with her egg. My fear is that I will have some sort of problem and will not be able to carry a baby. If this does happen I feel that my partner will not feel connected to the child that we are able to have. I wonder if this all made sense.

All your partners fears are

Mon, 24 Mar 2008 10:50:44 -0700

All your partners fears are valid except for the bonding issue. As an older woman with lots of experiences I can tell you that reason can't always change ones feelings so if you should decide to have a child you need to realize you may be raising it alone one day. Sadly this is a situation that has no right or wrong. Forcing someone that loves you to give in on an emotional issue leads to resentment down the road. Be careful and good luck!

Final Final Decision

SarahM — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 10:35:58 -0700

I am very new to this site, but I am just desparate to communicate with people that are and have gone through the same things...

After yet another tearful discussion late into the night last night, we decided to go ahead with our plan to try insemination beginning in August. Although we both want to have a child, it has been a struggle to get to this point. My partner and I are very different is some ways, and this is one of them. We usually balance each other out, but it is hard to see her so upset about something that should be a joyous decision.