ProudParenting.com - Lesbian moms seek child support from sperm donor 18 years after the baby was born. - Comments

wow

Sun, 10 Aug 2008 10:58:09 -0700

so many loopholes and gray areas with anything, anymore.

And even more questions -- fewer answers

Thu, 07 Aug 2008 08:33:11 -0700

How about the birth parents of an adopted child, can the adoptive parents go after them?

Many Questions - Few Answers

Wed, 06 Aug 2008 16:32:22 -0700

This is a slippery slope... What about egg donors? Can the woman then go back to the donor and ask for child support? How about if the egg and sperm was donated – could there be potentially four potential parents? Many questions, few answers...

yikes!

Wed, 05 Dec 2007 08:50:29 -0800

As a lesbian mom, this is so awful to read. It really does make us look bad! When we considered a known donor, we brought up in our first conversation that we'd legally terminate all of his rights and responsibilities. We didn't want him liable for child-rearing or child support, and we didn't want him demanding any custody (or his conservative parents).

We wound up going with an unknown donor through a clinic for these reasons. Our baby has 2 parents who she lives with, and no shananigans among multiple "parents". (I know some enlightened souls can navigate 2-mom-one-donor-daddy or 2-moms-2-dads situations, but I also knew pre-conception that I am not one of those souls!)

Just say NO!!

Wed, 05 Dec 2007 03:38:00 -0800

After this they couldn't pay me enough to danate.
I think after there aren't any more donors the courts
may change the laws and snuff this out.

Yikes

summersmom — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 12:10:52 -0800

This is a good heads-up so that other donors don't fall into these circumstances. Don't donate unless you've got legal representation! Get the paperwork out of the way before you hand over your donation.

Lesbian moms seek child support from sperm donor 18 years after the baby was born.

Community Editor — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 12:19:43 -0800

In the late 1980's, a married doctor in Nassau County, New York donated his sperm to a friend and her female partner.

The man included his name on the child's birth certificate, believing it would give the boy "an identity". The donor orally agreed he would not have any rights or benefits in the child's upbringing. However, he regularly sent money, gifts and cards which were signed "Dad" and "Daddy," and enjoyed regular phone chats with the child.

The donor said he had contact with the child from his birth until 1993, when the mothers and son moved to Oregon.