It has been over a year since my last blog post. My sweet little bug is now two years old. I love being a parent. I recently went back to work. I’ve been working three months now….it has been an adjustment for both of us.I’m happy to be back in the work force, I am however struggling with guilt. During the past three months there have been times I’ve felt that I’m not spending enough time with her. For my own sanity it was and is important for me to go back to work. Especially after a two and a half year hiatus! It does not however remove my reservations about quality time not being spent with her. I’ll touch more on this as time goes on. My sweet pea is now at a stage where she wants to do most everything for herself. No matter how much time it may take. I’m learning the art of patience these days. Which I should add is not something I come by naturally! It is rewarding when she masters something though. The most recent hurdle….. she can zip her own jackets…… this is something she was set on doing herself…..we where late for many appointments because of those Damn zippers. Getting dressed, shoes,clothes to wear, putting clothes on, feeding of let’s, folding of laundry……all things she wants to do on her own. Life is good. Must run until next time.
Two months ago, Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka became parents to fraternal twins. Since then, the babies have been keeping them busy. And according to Neil and David, it’s all just as they hoped for.
The family just moved into a “more kid-friendly” home in the Hollywood Hills, where the twins have a brand new nursery with an old-school Disney theme park décor.
NPH admits that he’s still trying “wrap” his mind around being a dad to his little ones, Harper Grace and Gideon Scott, but that the experience has been so amazing thus far. David reveals that Harper is the “fussy” baby while Gideon has been the “easiest baby in the world,” so far.
In an interview with PEOPLE David reveals his utter joy that they’ve started to “recognize” him and Neil and have even started smiling. Neil added: “I just love the way they smell. And we can use them as an excuse to get out of almost anything. That’s cleared the calendar in a good way.”
Shiloh and Brad
Millions of men are putting their reproductive health at risk by balancing their laptops on their knees, experts have warned.
Researchers from the State University of New York asked 29 young men to work on computers placed on their laps. They then measured the change in temperature in their genital area. Study leader, Professor Yelim Sheynkin, said: ‘Millions and millions of men are using laptops now, especially those in the reproductive age range.
‘Within 10 or 15 minutes their scrotal temperature is already above what we consider safe, but they don’t feel it.’ Around one in seven couples in the UK have trouble conceiving and male infertility plays a part in around half of these cases.
Under normal circumstances, the position of the testicles outside the body keeps them a few degrees cooler than the inside of the body, which is necessary for sperm production.
No studies have yet researched how laptops affect male fertility, but earlier research has showed that warming the scrotum even more than one degree Celsius is enough to damage sperm.
The latest study, published in the journal Fertility and Sterility, found the mens’ testicle temperature had risen by up to 2.5 C after holding a laptop on their knees for an hour.
Professor Sheynkin said: ‘I wouldn’t say that if someone starts to use laptops they will become infertile.’ However, he warned that frequent use might contribute to reproductive problems because ‘the scrotum doesn’t have time to cool down.’
The team found when the men sat with their legs spread wide with a large lap pad under the computer they could keep their testicles cooler. But it still took less than 30 minutes before they began overheating.
‘No matter what you do, even with the legs spread wide apart, the temperature is still going to be higher than what we call safe,’ Professor Sheynkin said.
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Ricky Martin recently spoke to the AP, and responded to a question about his timing for coming out. Martin doesn’t want to raise his children around lies.
He says, “Everybody has to go through their own process, spiritual peace, to be able to stand in front of the mirror and look at yourself and start asking questions and say, ‘This is you, and lift your head up high and be happy about it and be proud.’
“But the most important thing was my children. My children gave me the strength. Like I would say, ‘What am I going to tell them, teach them how to lie?’ No, that’s not how I want my kids to grow. I want my kids to grow transparent.”
Stonewall has launched this week ‘A Guide for Gay Dads’, giving gay men practical advice in plain English on how to become a dad.
The guide is the brother publication to Pregnant Pause, released earlier this year. It guides prospective gay dads through all their options including adoption, co-parenting, surrogacy, sperm donation and fostering. It includes a handy glossary and spells out all the recent legal changes in plain English to help demystify the process.
Ben Summerskill, Stonewall Chief Executive, said: ‘There’s never been a better time for gay men to start a family in Britain. The law is now on their side. And this comprehensive new guide – the first of its kind specifically aimed at gay men – outlines all options, with handy tips and places to go for further support. We hope it’ll convince some gay men who might have otherwise written off the prospect of raising children to re-consider.’
Stonewall we have worked hard to ensure that gay people can have and raise children like everyone else. While our lobbying has helped changed the law – allowing gay couples to adopt, removing barriers to fertility treatment for lesbians and outlawing discrimination in goods and services, including organisations offering social and family services – there is still lots to do.
Not only does the ‘Guide for Gay Dads’ give vitally useful legal advice on what parenting rights you may have in different situations but it gives you an overview of what you can expect from each route to becoming a dad. Given the recent changes to the law it is a must-read for any gay men considering starting a family.
Cambridge University research for Stonewall published earlier this year demonstrated how children with same-sex parents have the exact same quality of upbringing as other children. Alice, 7, who was interviewed for the research said: ‘I’ve got two parents who love me. It doesn’t matter if they’re a boy or a girl.’
Stonewall’s YouTube channel www.youtube.com/stonewalluk currently includes an interview with Jess Sweeney, 17, whose dad is gay. She told us: ‘Every girl wants a gay best friend, but mine is my dad, too.’
If you would like a free hardcopy of the guide, email Stonewall at firstname.lastname@example.org
or Click here to download A Guide for Gay Dads
It’s the latest in a programme of recent work to ensure lesbian and gay people can start families and bring up children free from homophobia. Earlier this year Stonewall published their groundbreaking (Different Families) research which for the first time allowed the overwhelmingly illuminating voices of children with gay parents to be heard and last year they published (Pregnant Pause), a guide for lesbians on how to get pregnant.
Read more about the guide at www.stonewall.org.uk
For more information about gay parenting, becoming a sperm donor or co-parenting visit www.prideangel.com
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