Blogs - Foster Care

A friend asked me to write a blog addressing an all-to-familiar stereotype that children of gay and lesbian parents grow up to be gay or lesbian. When I look at my myriad of friends, specifically those who are gay or lesbian – and there have been many in my 40 years – I have never met any who were raised by gay or lesbian parents. I am not suggesting that they do not exist; they just do not exist in my world. On the other hand, I have met a few heterosexual friends who had one or two gay and/or lesbian parents.

Are you a gay dad? Would you be willing to answer some confidential questions about your life and about your family? The purpose of this study is to examine the many ways families headed by gay fathers have been created, explore how families function, and learn about the relationship between partners.

Well we met our newest caseworker today. We also gave over our list of kids in TX that we want to inquire upon. We also should be getting our foster care license week after next. Our Home Study should be done next week and we will get to review it. All thsi work to wait yet again! Such is the truth, "success is waiting". Most fruitful work has a great deal of waiting.

I have spent time recently with many different families. Some in the midwest, some with stay at home parents, some with working parents, some in Southern California, some in turmoil over a son lost to the streets and some rejoicing over the birth of their newest family addition. During this time, I have really come to realize that the most important job I will ever have is parenting. The most important role I have in this life is being a parent. I have recently watched other parents, some very engaged and "plugged in" and some very distant and checked out.