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Hello!

My partner and I love to go to theater (it's how we met!) and now that our kids are at the age where we think they are mature enough to be able to attend the theater with us, we have been trying to find shows that they can understand and enjoy, but don't make me and the hubby want to pull our hair out! (LOL... I can't handle bunnies singing about eating carrots)

I just bought my tickets to Family Day at "Xanadu: the Broadway Musical." My partner and I saw it a few months ago and we have been excited to take our two kids (one boy, one girl 8 & 7). It's a lot of fun for the whole family. It's campy, witty, and well-performed so that the adults are entertained, but it's not dirty, and there's enough romance and roller skates that kids will love it to. Haha!

Anyway, there is a Family Day at Xanadu in August.
http://xanaduonbroadway.com/family/

So, yesterday I sat down with all the kids and had a really amazing heart to heart conversation, letting them know exactly what the move meant for them - the good, the bad, and the ugly. I did my best to respect their mom, and told them what my demands were for visitation. They were very honest about their mixed feelings about moving, and they gave me "permission" to fight for custody if my demands aren't met. I feel closer to my kids than I ever have. They are a petty amazing bunch!

My 15 month old daughter and I were taking our usual stroll on the strand this morning, something we do regularly and I began to feel lonely. It was a sensation I hadn't felt before. Since the arrival of our daughter, it was always known that I would be the stay home dad which I have always felt privledged and thankful for being able to care and raise our child. I guess I started to notice small group of women with their children doing activities,meeting for lunch or simple playing in the park.

Well only a few days until we board our airplane at 1 in the morning to take a red eye flight to MN to visit with my parter's family over the 4th of July. I am really excited for a vacation, but also always somewhat trepidacious (spelling??). Her family does not accept our relationship and has a very awkward feeling around me. They love the kids and they are glad we visit, but I am just an outsider looking in who never really fits in. I always go on these trips with the perspective that it's for my partner, for our kids, for the family, etc...and I enjoy seeing the midwest.

Saturday we had a birthday party for D. He is now 5 years old. There were about 10 of his friends from school here and their parents. Check out a picture at http://greendads2.blogspot.com

I have always known that one day I would be a dad. Looking back, my fantasy always included another husband; yet, I often wondered how I would make my dream a reality. My fantasy was usually abruptly halted by the reality that a woman was needed to make this dream come true. Little did I know that my dream would become my life.

My partner and I will celebrate nine years together in July. We plan to commemorate our life together by getting married. Wow...I'm getting married. How many gays and lesbians can actually say that? I digress.

Where to begin?! The full story will be in my book one day, but for now, I'm excited to have a place for gay parents to connect, and wanted to give you all a little of my history.

I was raised in the Mormon church all of my life... 6-7 generations deep. I was married at 21, and immediately started having kids. After all, for all of my life I was playing the "Mormon Game of Life" spinning the wheel, and moving to the next space... doing exactly as I was "supposed" to be doing!

The moment of truth finally came yesterday.. It had been two weeks since my surrogate mom got the positive result from her pregnancy blood test. Her hCG level was more than triple the average, so we were very concerned about the possibility of having triplets. Since then, I'd had the mixed emotions of joy and fear, thinking of the complications associated with the multiple pregnancies (selective reductions and all that). Though I'd waited for this positive pregnancy result for 4 years, I couldn't celebrate 100% because of this.

Ok, so as of June 16th gay couples can legally wed in the state of California. I am curious about the response/reaction to this by GLBT families. Are you as parents planning to wed immediately to garner all the equal rights for your family? Are you planning a ceremony or celebration? Are you interested, but not really moving forward? Are you not interested at all?

Let me know your thoughts on the subject. Are you looking to get that legal certificate ASAP?

Oh boy, toddlerhood has arrived. The twins will be 2 next week and all of a sudden we have seen a massive shift in their behavior, or truly, their inability to even realize that they are massivly misbehaving. I had my first real "public" experience this past weekend and I would love some advice from those of you that have gone before me. So, my partner and I head to the Farmers Market in downtown LB on Sunday morning. We get the kids out of the car and they're excited, it's warm and beautiful and they want to see the ocean after we shop.

I am a single, gay father of two boys who live with their mother. She wanted custody and I didn’t really know how I would gain custody living in Arkansas. I figured since I was living amongst the religious, conservative right that my chances were slim. We have been divorced for around five years and ever since then things have been very hectic for us all.

I was just feeling an overwhelming sense of loss recently regarding the journey I have taken from professional, lesbian chic, totally connected to the community and very involved in all GLBT issues...to now being a parent who can barely get out the door without forgetting to refill the wipes container in the diaper bag because we had major blow outs the day before and I noticed it was getting low.

I'm a 33-year-old, single gay male. I have three children. I have two boys with my ex-wife and she has a daughter from a previous relationship. I currently live in the same town as they do, but I am considering moving. The reason I would be moving is because I have met an incredible man that I love and adore. It's not a mere infatuation as most people might think. He and I have met face-to-face and spent quite a bit of time together despite our distance. The relationship has been going on since late November. I haven't told my ex-wife about this and I was wondering how I should approach her.