Tips for Those Dealing with Infertility

Although most of my clients come to me after years of struggling with infertility to such as degree that they have to move into the area of third party reproduction (; however, today, I wanted to provide some guidance to those who are “newbies.” In fact, I found a great blog that provides alot of useful information that one can refer back to over and over. It is found at Quips & Tips for Couples Coping with Infertility.

Some of the guidance that people at all stages should follow are as follows courtesy of this blog hostess:

“Tips for In Vitro Fertilization – IVF

Arm yourself with info, but don’t get alarmed. Our IVF doctor gave us a sheath of info and consent forms, and some of it revolves around the possible hazards of the egg retrieval and implantation surgeries. They list the possible problems (infection, intestinal punctures) and say “this is not to alarm or scare you!” One tip for IVF is to get all the info you can…but don’t let it freak you out.

Talk to couples who’ve tried IVF. When you get first-hand experiences, you’ll have more info than you ever wanted! To connect with other couples coping with infertility, ask your fertility specialist if they know of any support groups in nearby hospitals or communities. If you’re brave enough, you can ask your friends and family…and find blogs or websites like these!

Read fertility books. Current books about IVF, donor sperm, IUI, and natural treatments for infertility are great ways to learn about the procedure. The more you know about IVF, the more comfortable you’ll feel, which is why these tips for in vitro fertilization are so important.

Read Fertility Plus’ article called IVF Hints. I didn’t agree about the “don’t talk to your partner about his role, as this causes stress” part, but I think it depends on each couple. Everyone copes with infertility differently! If stress leads to performance anxiety, then by all means keep him calm…but if he’s not involved in the sperm donor process, then talk as much as you need!

Do a mock IVF transfer? This is one of the tips for in vitro fertilization suggested by Fertility Plus, but I don’t think we’ll do it. It may be good in theory, but I suspect it’ll cost more time, money, and energy than I can spare. A mock IVF transfer can give the fertility specialist an idea of the depth of your uterus, so when the real time comes, they’re ready.

Be prepared for anything. I’m prepared for pain, discomfort, mood swings, and the fact that this IVF could lead to pregnancy…or another disappointment. I’m prepared for things I can’t even fathom right now! I’m ready for anything.

Plan something fun for after the transfer! Some fertility specialists say to relax right after the egg and sperm are placed, while other say it’s not scientifically proven that increases the success of in vitro fertilization. My tip for a successful IVF is to rent a few of your favorite or new DVDs, make popcorn, snuggle up with your sweetie, and take a day or two off! Give yourself something enjoyable to look forward to.

Plan something fun for after the pregnancy test. If my in vitro fertilization isn’t successful, I’m getting laser eye surgery. Having 20/20 or better vision isn’t as good as a baby, but at least it’s something to look forward to!

What are your tips for or thoughts about in vitro fertilization? I’d love to hear from you – please comment below. Is IVF painful? How many times did you try? Did it eventually work for you? What would you do differently?”

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  • May 20, 2009 at 6:31 am

    Thanks for sharing the tips. In vitro fertilization (IVF) is a safe, effective and widely used method that can help individuals and couples achieve a successful pregnancy. Find how in vitro fertilization procedure works, the risks and complications associated and the success rate.

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