Becoming Dads for the first time.

Hi, I thought this blog may be a great way of sharing our experiences through-out the whole gay dad process. We are a couple in New Zealand – it appears the only gay guys in the country to want a family??? go figure, there must be a lot of guys out there in the same or similar circumstances. SAY HI !!
Any way, yesterday we spoke to the lady who is going to have our baby and she is so excited to be able to give us a gift of life. We met through a friend of a friend, almost in error.

She is having her IUD removed on Monday and it looks like we start our part a few days later. We were going to mix our sperm but have been told its not a good idea. Evidently the sperm fight each other. (They seemed to be happy together in the past!!)
We have decided we will provide sperm on alternative days for each of us and let nature decide!
We both, and our babies mum have twins in the family so it could be interesting.
We dont mind if we have a girl or a boy, either or both would be great.
I’ll post a new blog in the next week or. We hope this will provide interesting reading over the next 9 or so months.
How exciting!!!

8 thoughts on “Becoming Dads for the first time.

  • January 3, 2009 at 2:31 am
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    Oh well…. We didnt conceive last month so back to the drawing board this month. We are going to do 7 insemenation hits this month to try and hit the right time. We actually took the negative news okay. I guess we are aware it may not happen straight away so it was not a huge disapointment. We really want this to happen so please keep fingers crossed for next month.
    We will keep you posted, Mat and Dave

  • November 27, 2008 at 2:06 pm
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    Good Luck Guys! I can’t wait to read your next post. I live near Tampa, Florida in the US. Me and my partner are in the beginning steps of becoming foster parents. We wanted to adopt but the law in Florida prohibits it. 🙁

  • November 23, 2008 at 6:56 pm
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    Congratulations! Its really exciting and we’d like to be a part of your project, by reading more. Thanks.

  • November 28, 2008 at 3:11 pm
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    JUST TO SAY WELL DONE I AM A GAY DAD TO 3KIDS AND ITS GREAT

  • November 28, 2008 at 8:45 am
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    Delays delays! Some judgemental doctor refused to let our surrogate mum have her IUD removed, he said it is not being responsible. Due to the views of surrogacy in New Zealand we didnt want it to be public knowledge of our intentions so I spoke to my Doctor who was only to happy to help. He is also Gay and is aware of our intentions and supports us 100%. Surrogacy is legal in New Zealand but is uncommon and it is impossible for gay couples to adopt hence this being our only option. One of us will be the legal Dad, we are happy with that. Odd law in NZ allows for 2 women on a birth certificate but not 2 men??? We are now just waiting for D day to start, roll on fertile days.

  • November 28, 2008 at 8:45 am
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    Delays delays! Some judgemental doctor refused to let our surrogate mum have her IUD removed, he said it is not being responsible. Due to the views of surrogacy in New Zealand we didnt want it to be public knowledge of our intentions so I spoke to my Doctor who was only to happy to help. He is also Gay and is aware of our intentions and supports us 100%. Surrogacy is legal in New Zealand but is uncommon and it is impossible for gay couples to adopt hence this being our only option. One of us will be the legal Dad, we are happy with that. Odd law in NZ allows for 2 women on a birth certificate but not 2 men??? We are now just waiting for D day to start, roll on fertile days.

  • December 10, 2008 at 10:08 am
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    Well how exciting Mat and I are now on the way to hopefully starting a family soon,. We did our first home insemenation tonight and our cool friend did her part too, oh well, another few times and we are really hoping for a positive pregnancy test for Christmas. No pressure, we know it might not happen the first month but what if it does…………..

  • February 3, 2009 at 9:28 am
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    It has been three weeks since our last insemination attempt. We are nervously awaiting results. Our poor surrogate mum has been really tired for the last three or four days and we are wondering if this may be a sign. The waiting is so hard, we can now relate to every one trying to get pregnant. Up to now it has not even entered our minds that couples waiting to get pregnant live like this for months sometimes years, we have so much empathy now for these couples. No news is good news?? Stay tuned…… Dave and Mat

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