Welcome to the exciting world of Gay Parenting! To those of you still in the planning stages, good luck as you select your donor sperm, choose an adoption agency, or meet your future surrogate. To those of you who’ve already brought home your bundle of joy, congratulations!
Your life will never be the same. Not long ago, you and your partner were “those two quiet men on the seventh floor” or “the lesbians at the end of the block.” Now, you’re pushing a stroller and infiltrating the playground, the pediatrician’s office, and the local Montessori preschool.
You are like an illegal immigrant who has crossed a forbidden border into a foreign land. Nothing in your adult life has prepared you for the nuances of this Brave New World. Here, in these last strongholds of Straight America, you’re a newcomer and you need to be on your guard. You don’t know the language and the secret customs. While some kind, considerate souls will welcome you, others will look upon you as an interloper coming to claim privileges that are rightfully theirs alone.
Don’t despair. Never doubt your conviction. Years in the Gay Outback have toughened you. You have the inner strength to become an outstanding gay parent in the face of all the challenges the straight world can throw at you.
True, you have a lot to learn. And yes, you will make mistakes and have questions. And so I offer you this little blog—from one gay parent to another. Visit it often. Let it be a source of strength and comfort as you find your way.
A Way Out Parent
PS: Take a look back at the Dark Ages of Gay Parenting in my second blog entry.