My partner and I are in the early stages of research and planning. We will be getting married in the summer of 2008 and don’t plan on trying to add a child into our lives until 2-3 years after that. However, we are trying to conduct all of the necessary research now so that we can figure out exactly what to do.

The main thing is the confusion and frustration that this process (even in the preliminary stage) can bring about. Conversations concerning known donors and unknown donors, should we ask a friend, even though we have the urge/desire/yearning/drive/love to parent should we be parenting. The list goes on and I.

I guess we I am just looking for some advice on how to go about this whole process. My partner and I are currently reading The Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy for Lesbians: How to Stay Sane and Care for Yourself from Pre-conception through Birth, 2nd Edition

Just looking for advice.

2 thoughts on “Confusion…

  • April 13, 2008 at 5:39 pm

    i saw you on here, and just wanted to post.

    great book, btw. we have read that one also. we have also read the new essential guide to lesbian conception, pregnancy, and birth. this one covers more on the conception topic, which is a big part of the entire process, at least for lesbians.

    we also got a copy of the legal guide for lesbian and gay couples. it’s good because it has a donor insemination contract included, and also other forms that will help you maintain your relationship in the eyes of the law.

    although this book is not about conceiving, we also have lesbian couples: a guide to creating health relationships. if anything, this serves as a conversation starter for us, and we actually read it together before we got married. it helped us talk through a lot of things, and even covers parenting in a few of the chapters.

    i am blogging about our experience, among other things at

    posts related to the ttc topic are listed in the subject matter section. keep in mind that we are just starting out and will be trying for the first time next month, however, feel free to track our progress…

    be blessed.

  • April 9, 2008 at 6:41 pm

    My partner and I are at the same stage. We’ve just started talking to other lesbian couples who got pregnant, I’m looking into what my insurance will cover, and we’re discussing the big parenting questions (this morning it was, what will we tell them about sex and drugs).

    I’m going to check out the book you’re reading, it sounds good. Just wanted to say hello and to let you know you’re not alone!

    “I’d rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I’m not.”

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