ProudParenting.com member – SarahM – is chronicling the steps she’s taking with her partner, to build a family.
“I am very new to this site, but I am just desperate to communicate with people that are and have gone through the same things…”
At first, the couple struggled with the options available to them. They talked about adoption versus insemination, then decided on insemination. But the decision came after much processing of the fears that can arise during the decision-making process.
“…we decided to go ahead with our plan to try insemination beginning in August. Although we both want to have a child, it has been a struggle to get to this point. My partner and I are very different is some ways, and this is one of them. We usually balance each other out, but it is hard to see her so upset about something that should be a joyous decision.”
- the bio-mom fears that – since the baby will be her egg – the other woman may not feel connected to the baby
- the non-bio family may never accept the child as part of their family
- the bio-mom’s eggs are getting older every day
- autism has occurred in her family
- and, “Money, of course, money”
So the couple is on the path toward successful insemination!
In an updated post, she says:
“As I read through the profiles of possible donors, I think about the fact that my child may never meet his father. We are straddling the line between Yes and No donors, but even if we pick a Yes donor, the fact is that this child will never really know this person. I try to imagine what it would be like to wonder who my father was. I know millions of children are adopted or have donor eggs/sperm and have gone through this and made it, but it scares me that I am deciding for my child that they will possibly have this void in their life.”
We wish them luck, and hope they will keep us posted!