National Coming Out Day

If you haven’t yet, it’s time to stick your big toe out of the closet. Take a deep breath – center yourself – and tell someone close to you that you’re lesbian or gay.

It helped in San Diego – and NCOD is an opportunity to take that first big step.

The Day has been recognized for almost 20 years as a result of the 1987 March on Washington. The MOW galvanized a core group of gay rights activists, and those pioneers carried the momentum of the Washington event into a yearly call-to-action via local events. The first NCOD was organized by Dr. Robert Eichberg and – former nun – Jean O’Leary. O‚ÄôLeary started NCOD’s first headquarters in West Hollywood – and the first event was celebrated in 18 states. The Human Rights Campaign manages the event in the U.S. now.

The minds of voters are influenced by people around them, so coming out to someone close is an important contribution to our community.

If you’ve done it, please share your story with us. We’d like to hear about work-related accounts, family anecdotes, and reactions from friends.

Blog about it or post your story in the “comment” section below.

3 thoughts on “National Coming Out Day

  • October 14, 2007 at 2:23 pm


    Congratulations on coming out to someone. The first time is probably the most tough – and it comes with the consequences you’re experiencing.

    Now it’s time for self-preservation. Don’t tell any more people for awhile. Keep your head down and your chin up. You should get use to looking over your shoulder until you are able to live on your own – away from negative influences.

    Keep in mind – millions of happy gay men and women have come from stifling environments, like the one you’re in now. You’ll eventually leave home and create a life for yourself. A life that makes YOU happy.

    Take care of yourself – and you’ll do fine!

  • October 12, 2007 at 6:08 pm

    Good for you Tyler, in coming out…It is hard, even as an adult….Alot of people hide for years,they marry and create the expected life, but are not happy…So my praise goes out to you for being who makes you happy, and you are a better man for being honest with yourself and your family….I am 33yrs old and with a woman now after being married for 12yrs and I still get looks, talked about in my own family. It isn’t easy, but inside it makes me so much happier, and for my kids too….
    Good luck,
    Plymouth, MA

  • October 12, 2007 at 12:22 am

    it was extremely hard time for me last year. if people say coming out is easy well they’re liars. the first person i ever told was my dear friend angela. and i think the only reason i told her is b.c before she said that a gay guy thought i was hot. then i came out to the other people i trusted. it was horrible not one of them belived me and they all told me that there was no way i could ever be gay. i was extremely meloncholy. it was just basically depressing. but after i finnally got comfortable with myself and other people started to belive me i decided to tell my mom. i trusted her and thought i owed it to her to tell her since after all she was my mother. but alas i was betrayed she went behind my back and told my father that i was gay!!!!!!
    now to understand how devastating that was you have to first understand my dad. hes soooooooo predujice. he says fag all the time and hes roman catholic along with most of the rest of my family.
    i was told im physco and need to see some one. and that im to young to say that. and that if i tell everybody (which everybody in my school had already known) ill be marked with a stigma.
    so i once again went through a long state of that is my story started last year in fall to now a year later. while those horrible voices of being unaccepted ring in my ear i must be strong

    from johnstown

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